Carers often forget to look after their own wellbeing as they are often too busy looking after others. If you are a carer then this event may help you to unwind & have a day away from caring.

I often help out at these events & find it very rewarding as a therapist. I'm looking forward to doing this one. I shall be there in the afternoon offering free hand massages. This is open to all & there's no charge for the event or the therapies on offer. Also, no need to book. See you there!

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Pain in the butt? What to do about it.

Pain in the butt? What to do about it.

The statistics for back pain are staggering. Back pain is very common and according to a survey published recently almost half the adult population of the UK report low back pain lasting for at least 24 hours at some time in the year. It is estimated that four out of every five adults will experience back pain at some stage in their life. The cost to the local economy and to one's health is enormous. Recently nearly 5 million working days were lost as a result of back pain. This means that on any one day 1% of the working population are on sickness leave due to a back problem. Back pain is the number 2 reason for long-term sickness in much of the UK.

If you had persistent back pain it used to be suggested that bed rest was the only solution and people used to be confined to their beds for months on end. As medical knowledge has improved, this is no longer the case. It is just as well that this advice is no longer followed as it leads to muscle wastage and can affect one's mental wellbeing. Recent researches in numerous countries have shown that the best way to manage back pain is through activity which help to strengthen the core muscles. These muscles are crucial in supporting our frames and any strengthening of muscles will also help to support the areas affected. Activities needed to strengthen muscles are varied and can include everything from gentle walking to vigorous swimming. Also, gentle exercise routines Such as Pilates or Yoga are worth investigating.

As a back pain sufferer I know just how pain can affect one's whole wellbeing. Life can become a struggle and the pain seems to be ever-present and dominating one's life. I remember when I first had my first attack of bad sciatica and things were desperate for me. Pain definitely has a way of saying “don't ignore me”! I tried out the usual physio and walking. It wasn't until I had some sessions of acupuncture that things began to improve. I also has regular massage sessions with a therapist who went on to become my massage tutor! I noticed the massage sessions helped me to unwind and forget my pain for duration of the treatment. The good news was that these 'feel-good effects' carried on for some time afterwards and I was able to 'bank' them. I decided to combine the treatments with gentle walking by joining a health group ran by the local Council and also a local walking group run by the local church. I made a point of noticing everything around me and tried to be calm.

I also joined a swimming group as I knew that I wouldn't turn up to swim on my own! These combined activities helped me to feel better about myself physically.

In addition to my own self-help activities I also had traction, heat treatments and prescribed exercises from the physiotherapist. I'm pleased to say that I still carry on with some of these regimes to maintain my wellbeing and strengthen my core muscles. I think that once you have had back pain then its best to keep on top of it by looking after it and pampering it. Pain isn't fun!

As well as physically looking after myself I also made sure that my mental wellbeing was taken care of. I did this by surrounding myself with supportive friends and family and making sure that I had social activities planned most days. This could be anything from meeting up for a natter and coffee (not forgetting the cake!) to going for a special outing to the beach or an exhibition. I found that having company helped me and having planned distractions outside the house greatly helped me too. These activities do not have to involve any cost – just forward planning!

I also found that “rewarding” myself & “self-talk” tactics were very useful. By rewards I mean little treats like: “I'll have a drink/biscuit after I've done this set of exercise”. Or saying to myself: “I will feel better and I will get better”. When I said that to myself I made sure that I put the emphasis on “will”. Thinking in the positive was cathartic and I am sure it helped towards my recovery.

However, it wasn't all plain sailing for me. There were days when the pain was so bad that I felt like just crawling under the duvet and staying there. Fortunately for me lying down was one of the worst positions for me.

Don't give up hope if you are in constant pain. Make sure that you are getting all the help that the National Health can provide for you and also make sure that your condition has been thoroughly investigated. Don't leave any stones unturned. I know this is easier said than done. When you are in pain it can take your self-confidence away and your ability to concentrate and communicate effectively may well be gone. If this does happen to you then make sure that you've got a family member/friend to support you. If you don't want to share this with family/friends then there are also many charities that may be able to support and act as your advocate. MIND is one of the most active charities in supporting people's mental wellbeing. You may also find that joining a support / interest group may well help you.

As a massage therapist I often get clients with back pain and I know from what they say just how badly it can affect them. Not only does their health suffer but their work, their finances and their personal life can suffer too. Please don't suffer in silence as there's help available.

If you approach your pain with a positive mind combined with some physical manipulation such as massage/yoga then you may be able to bring it under control or at least get some relief. Good luck.

Acupuncture is a part of traditional Chinese medicine....

I am delighted to say that my second guest blogger, Ehab Hamisa, the acupuncturist at the Centre where I am based has kindly agreed to let me have a copy of his article:-

"Acupuncture is a part of traditional Chinese medicine in which small, hair sized needles is inserted into the body at specific locations in order to alter the flow of energy. These channels which, according to Chinese medicine, run through the body keep everything in line and balanced. If one of these should happen to get out of balance, however, it could cause a problem in the entire body and depending on where the imbalance occurred, it could affect a specific area of the body. This is really the essence of yin and yang, the two forces which regulate almost everything within the human body. I am always interested in TCM to treat people using the body power and the soul by stimulating QI or SHI through the meridians channels to release and remove the blockage point using the acupuncture or acupressure on specific the acu-points to help healing and treat the cause of the disease. The strong back ground in biomedical and biological sciences where I have been practice in pathology to diagnose diseases using the western medicine methodology helped me to full understand of the human anatomy and physiology and increased my ambition to treat the human body and soul with the holistic therapy methods instead of the western chemical medicine which it always had a side effects. I am always interested in treating the cause of disease not just the symptoms, passionately enjoying working with people at profound level to encourage potential in addition to treating the illness. As I always believe that our bodies have an amazing ability to heal themselves but just need a helping hand".  Dr. Ehab Hamisa

To sleep or not sleep, that is the question

To sleep or not to sleep, that is the question.

Do you suffer from this? Are you tossing & turning in bed all hours of the night? Does it take you ages to drop off? Do you wake-up early hours? Over the years I've had some of these problems. They were acute when I was busy at home with a young family & trying to juggle a job & all my other commitments. I found out over the years that the key to feeling refreshed and relaxed is to have a regular pattern of sleep, rather than worry about the number of hours of sleep you get. Forget the old urban myth that everyone needs 8 hours of sleep! Everyone is different & the hours that you need may well be different from the hours that someone else needs. If you go to bed before you're really tired, and then sleep badly, you'll tend to stay in bed later in the morning, which will affect the next night's sleep, and so on. The 'knock-on' effects can be devastating & will affect your lifestyle & health. The following steps can help you establish a good sleep pattern & routine:-

Establishing a routine

• ONLY Go to bed only when you feel tired enough to sleep. If you always take a long time to get to sleep, delay going to bed until the time when you normally fall asleep, and get up at your usual time. This should mean you spend less time in bed, but more of it asleep, and your sleep pattern should improve but it may be gradual so don't get anxious if you don't get immediate results.

• Set the alarm at the same time each morning. Don't sleep in late to make-up for a bad night. This will only make it harder to sleep the following night. You may need to follow this programme for several weeks, to establish a regular pattern. Also, wake up as soon as you hear the alarm and don't be tempted to stay asleep; however lightly. 

• Don't watch television or use your computer in bed. These are what the brain considers waking activities. Restrict them strictly to your waking hours. Be firm with yourself and don't be tempted to just check that last minute email/Facebook update. Your 'status updates' can wait; your family & friends can wait for those crucial pictures/comments from you until the morning.  Be less nosey! Make a list if you have to and do it the next day. You may like to keep a notepad by the bed. I found this particularly helpful when I was teaching or doing an event or organising an article such as this one! If anything cropped up before I fell asleep then I just wrote it down for 'tomorrow' and not 'today'. I also told myself that I was in bed & couldn't do anything about it there & then. It just had to wait...  Be firm with yourself & soon this habit can be a lifesaver.

• If you don't fall asleep within 20 minutes, get up and go to relax & unwind in another room. If you don't have any other rooms to do this you then the corridor on a comfortable chair will do. Make this space as far away from the bed/bedroom as possible. Do something soothing, such as reading an amusing story, listening to music, self-massage or relaxation stretches until you're tired enough to go back to bed. Repeat this process, if you are awake for long periods.

• Avoid taking a nap during the day. But if you are really overtired, taking a short nap after lunch can be beneficial; sometimes sleep promotes sleep. Try to make the naps short ones; 30 minutes maximum. Set the alarm before your nap & wake up when the alarm goes off & don't stay in bed for another 10 minutes.

• Complementary therapies such as massage   or   Bowen  may be useful to help you to sleep. Many clients have reported that they have slept well after such treatments. Rosemary Barber, from Broadland Bowen, is an experienced Bowen practitioner. According to her Bowen's great to help you get to sleep: “People usually sleep well after treatment”.  Rosemary is a considerate person & passionate about her therapy.

Whatever you do, good luck & sleep well.

Massage sessions de-mystified!

For those who have never had a massage before I'm often asked what its like! Well, that's a difficult question to answer as everyone responds differently to a session & each experience will be an unique one depending on what they are having, the experience of the therapist & what state the person treating is in. I'm also often asked do I have to undress completely? Well, the answer again is its up to you! Most clients undress down to their underwear but you can have all your clothes on & have what's called a 'seated clothed massage' as can be seen from the picture below:- 

Clothed seated massage by Bibi

Also, you don’t have to lie down on a massage couch if that's difficult for you to do. You can have a massage in almost any position: lying on your side, standing against a wall, on your stomach or on your back. Should a client choose to undress to their underwear then they are covered with towels & these are carefully moved as required to carry out the treatment. 

The other question that I'm often asked is: 'what happens during a session? Well,that depends on what treatment you have come for and the therapist you see! With my own practice there is always a full consultation so that
your medical history and lifestyle can be taken into consideration in the treatment plan. If you have come for a unclothed massage then you get changed in privacy and lie on the couch. I then start the treatment & will ask for feedback from you regarding the strokes & pressure etc. 

At the end we chat about the treatment and your aftercare is outlined. This is written down & given to you as a reminder. Also, I will advise about what you can do in-between treatments to maintain or improve your body’s equilibrium. This may be through gentle stretching exercises which I'll show you or changes to your lifestyle or diet may be discussed.

Upper back massage by Bibi

Shoulder & arm massage by Bibi

Leg massage by Bibi

Massage & your Wellbeing

Massage & your Wellbeing

A simple hand massage as carried out by Bibi

In order to function at your optimum it is important to look after your mind, body & soul as they function as a whole. Massage is just one way of looking after your wellbeing & may have the following effects on you depending on your condition and the type massage treatment you have:-


* Massages may enable you to function at your maximum as it may help to regulate your sleep patterns, eliminate toxins and impurities. It will also help to restore your strength and mobility by increasing your energy levels.


* Massages may reduce your stress and anxiety, deepen your relaxation and improve your self-esteem by improving your concentration & mental clarity.


* Medical research on massage has also shown it may help to relieve your muscle tension & stiffness and deepen your breathing. It may also balance your digestive system and support your lymphatic system.


* Finally and more importantly, it may induce a sense of mental wellbeing which makes you feel more able to cope better with the strain and stresses of daily life.